Archive for April 2014

It can be challenging to change old habit- but we know that if you want to, you can! Here’s a way to reframe your questions, and elicit different answers, to make a positive difference in your life

I’d like to take a minute to talk about commitment with passion. No, I’m not talking about the romantic kind (as in intimate relationships with others) – rather I’m talking about the kind of commitment that leads to creating self-fulfilling prophecies. Let’s face it, pursuing your goals, even if you’re highly motivated, isn’t always a…

Here’s a little story that illustrates the value of sharing resources and creating something from nothing. There are many versions of it, and I’m not sure where it comes from originally, but here goes: Many years ago in a time of great hardship and famine an old soldier wandered into a poverty stricken village and…

No matter how much spiritual practice, self-improvement, or therapy we’ve been through, there is one area where many of us still find ourselves challenged every day: self-acceptance. It seems all too easy to fall into the trap of judging ourselves as inadequate, finding fault with our achievements or our bodies, and believing our self-critical inner…

Here’s a little story about Making a Difference. Once upon a time there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work. One day he was walking along the shore. As he looked down the…

My coaching moment today comes from a workshop that I love to present, and have many, many times. It’s called Brain Boosters: Improving your Memory. Let’s face it, we’re all concerned about forgetting what we really want to remember! In this presentation I talk about the value of attaching to memories using our different senses,…

My coaching moment today is about the experience of choice. In his book, Why We Do What We Do, Edward Deci says, “At the heart of human freedom is the experience of choice.” As a coach, I talk to people in terms of making their own choices and forging their own path all the time.…

My coaching moment today is about how committing to your goals helps you achieve happiness, and is based on the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky. In her book, The How of Happiness, she writes, “people who strive for something personally significant, whether it’s learning a new craft, changing careers, or raising moral children, are far happier…

Think about the most important relationships in your life. What are the characteristics of the people to whom you feel closest? Happy couples describe their partners as interested and responsive. Besides existing relationships, curious people act in certain ways with strangers that allow relationships to develop more easily. Research shows that curious people ask questions…